Sometimes we get discouraged by the challenges in our lives and take comfort in making excuses or blaming others for our problems. While it is true that certain experiences outside our control can make our life journey more challenging we have to be careful to make sure that we are not using blaming our issues on poor parenting, a boss that hates you, or the universe in general, as a soothing excuse for inaction .The problem with putting the blame and responsibility outside yourself, is that you take away your power to change your situation and regain control.
Don't get me wrong. Everything is not your fault. You have to remember that taking taking responsibility and taking the blame are two different things. Does it matter who’s to blame? You’re taking care of business, so it doesn’t matter if it’s your fault or not. You’re solving the problem, regardless of the cause. Blaming yourself makes you less effective. However you it is your responsibility to make your life better. Here are 3 ways you can accept greater responsibility for your current situation and regain greater control of your life.
Be aware of the sources of your own challenges. If you are struggling to lose weight, you have to understand how your poor decisions or actions that you may have failed to take, could have contributed to your weight loss struggles. Taking responsibility does not mean blaming yourself for everything. You may be struggling to lose weight because of a medical condition, or because you don't have as much time as before to exercise they way you used to because you now have to devote more of your time to taking care of your sick family member. Find balance in your life. While it is important to look at the least satisfying parts of your life and determine how you may have contributed to that outcome, make sure that you also look at the great parts of your life and give yourself some credit, too.
Remember that not everything is within your power to change. You can’t make your boss like you. you can't snap a finger and change your boss. But you can find another job. You can’t make your spouse stop drinking or stop messing up the house. Maybe you can make them start doing the dishes or doing some cooking. Be careful with asking them to cook, so that they won't burn down the house. In the end, you can only control yourself. Avoid worrying about the things that are outside your control. Worrying about things outside your control can lead to loss of confidence, self-esteem, stress, ill-health and unintended failures.
The third way is to take responsibility for the little things. The big things are more exciting, but the little things are important, too. In fact, not taking care of the little things often leads to the bigger problems. Take responsibility for the everyday tasks that you face on a regular basis. Sleep well, wake up early and get things done on time.
It’s natural to avoid responsibility whenever possible. Accepting responsibility leads to discomfort and results in more work, at least for the time being. It can mean less work down the road, though. Handing challenges today ensures that they don’t grow into even bigger challenges later. Remember that a stitch in time saves nine.
Here is a bonus tip and strategy: Be the best version of yourself. Hold yourself to a higher standard than anyone else would ever demand of you. This is the ultimate way to take control, because you’re accepting the highest level of responsibility. Being the best version of yourself means doing what needs to be done whether you feel like it or not. This is the key to relentless wellness, self-mastery and improvement. Handing challenges today ensures that they don’t grow into even bigger challenges later. Remember that a stitch in time saves nine. It’s time to take more responsibility for your life and regain greater control and more consistent success in your daily life!
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