7 ways to have a more healthy relationship and improve your wellness

7   ways to have a more healthy relationship and improve your wellness

Relationships can be challenging. Why? While most relationships start with fun and games, overtime, some become filled with trials and tribulations. The ability to handle these challenges effectively determines how successful the relationship will become, and how well you can protect your health, and improve your wellness.

 The first way to make your relationships more healthy is to manage your expectations.  Your  partner isn’t everything you need. Nobody is perfect! Expectations are high in relationships. Keep them low. Before you know the other person well, it’s easy to imagine they’re everything you’d ever need from another person: a soul mate, sounding board, best friend, and perfect lover. No single person can completely satisfy the needs of another. Expect to have no more than 80% of your need fulfilled by your partner. You’ll have to find the other 20% somewhere else. This might be the need to watch horror movies with someone else, have intellectual conversations, talk about shopping, or talk about sports.

The second way is to manage your communication issues. Communication can be challenging too! One partner more to do seems to want to do it more than the other. Set aside time each day for a few minutes to talk. Practice good listening skills. One person is generally miserable for those few minutes, but that’s the price that must be paid to have a successful relationship. It’s worth the price.

The third way is to deal with related trust issues. Some people have difficulty trusting others. Some people are more resentful than others when they don’t receive the level of trust they think they deserve or the praise, they think deserve. Be trustworthy and expect the same from your partner. There are little things you can do to build trust, keep your word. Be on time, be open, don't be  jealous Don't lie about what you have done or your whereabouts.

Be prepared for financial disagreements. Financial issues often lead to relationship challenges. It’s easy for the feelings of stress and anxiety to be taken out on your partner. Don't assume that the more money you have, the more others will  love you and listen to you. You have to blame someone, right? Don't . Build up a team with your partner to deal with financial challenges.

 The fifth way to make sure you have division of labor. In some cultures, there’s no disagreement. Men do certain chores and women do theirs Keep everyone involved, otherwise, one person will deal with it alone and resentment occurs.  Believe me! Resentment is not good for your health.

Do you have a list of family daily chores? make one! Make a list of all the chores that need to be done. Divide them into three lists – daily, weekly, and monthly.  You might consider taking turns choosing chores. After a few months, you can swap.

The sixth way to make your relationship healthier is make sure, you don't cheat in your relationship, While the urge to cheat may be real, you have to remember that once you cheat you destroy trust in your relationship. Without trust your relationship becomes unhealthy and filled with doubt, stress and anxiety.  How do you know that your spouse is really working late when he says he is working late? How do you know that business trip to New York was not really a weekend gate away with a lover in Hawaii?   Cheating is the result of short-term thinking and will destroy your health and wellness, unless you keep your eye on the long-term benefits of a healthy relationship.  

The  seventh way is to avoid getting stuck in a rut. This happens when there’s too much routine and the future isn’t compelling. When there is nothing to look forward to. Set a few goals together to make the future more interesting and  . Plan a trip or a big purchase. Get out of the house at least once a week for an event together. It could be eating out, going to a sporting event together, or going for a walk together. yoga class, or bowling.

Avoid the belief that a good relationship is easy 100% of the time. It creates unreasonable expectations. Expect that challenges will occur and be prepared for them. Your health and wellness depends on it!!

Please let me know how you deal with making your relationship more healthy,  and if any of the ways that  I have shared with you will help you, help yourself and improve your wellness. You can also sign up for the Compass Wellness Challenge to learn different simple, smart and easy ways, you can improve your dimensions of wellness, and live a healthier and better life!